Keep you anger separate from your relationships. Keep your anger separate from your marital relationship, relationship with friends and other family members because anger is temporary, but relationships are lasting. When husband and wife verbally fight over an issue, they must not take it to the bedroom in the evening.
Separate Anger and Marital Relations
Apostle Paul writes. “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 and do not give the devil a foothold.” Therefore, do not hold a grudge against anyone. Do not hold negative thoughts against anyone, particularly, to your spouse or family members. The anger is temporary. It raises and falls. Yet, the relationships are permanent.
Keep these two things separate from one another. Keep the temporary anger separate from permanent relationship.
This requires to have a forgiving heart. This requires us to learn to say “I am sorry,” and this requires us to learn to forgive people, especially if that person is your spouse with whom you have a permanent relationship.
Some say this would be a unilateral concession and are afraid to make it. Well, I will tell you what will happen if you don’t make this unilateral concession in a family relationship and what will happen if you do.
Our Christian faith teaches us that things like asking for forgiveness and forgiving others are kind of one-sided things. Even if your opponent has not asked for your forgiveness, we are to love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us. (Matt. 5:44).
When you do not forgive your spouse for a heated-argument that happened in the morning or in the afternoon, or when you do not ask for forgiveness, then you “give the devil a foothold.” (Eph. 4:27)
Initiate The First Action Toward Peace
Now you see? Instead of waiting for your spouse to take the first action, you initiate the first action and thus, do not give the devil a foothold in your mind, in your thoughts, in your heart in your family life. You can start this act of not taking the fight into your bedroom by just forgiving your spouse in your heart and not holding any grudge against your spouse. If you do not do this, it will be more and more difficult to take the devil out of your relationship. If you are not able to do it today, how can you do it tomorrow?
I am not saying this will immediately solve the existing problem. But it will extinguish the fire of anger. Many times martial relationships become bitter because none of the sides want to make the first step. They keep grudge against each other and thus, do not give the Holy Spirit the way to bring the peace.
Believe in the Word of God. Forgive and ask for forgiveness. Do not hold grudge because you love your God, because you want to do what is good, and because you are children of your Heavenly Father. After all, which if you parents, if your children fight, will say to them, do not forgive and keep grudge against your brother, until he asks for forgiveness?
Here on earth we are given the chance to conquer all evil with peace and stillness. (Elder Thaddeus of Vitovnica)