Which is better, to verbally insult or to be insulted?

We don’t like to be verbally insulted, but insulting others is not a good thing either. Which of these is preferable if no choice? Here is what we keep when we are verbally insulted and what we lose when we insult others.

insulting vs insulted

In reality none of these are good. No one should be insulted, nor should we insult anyone. However, we also know that insulting someone or being insulted are unfortunately common occurrences throughout our life.

When You Insult, You Lose Your Peace

When it comes down to arguments, it appears that being insulted is better than to insult.

Yes, you heard it right. Here is how Father Thaddeus of Vitovnica explains this in his book “Our Thoughts Determine Our Lives.” On page 176 he writes the following.

“It is better to be insulted than to insult. For if we bear an insult, we can still keep our peace; but if we insult someone, then our conscience will not give us peace.”

This is, of course, if attaining and keeping the peace of Christ and living in the joy of the Holy Spirit are the highest goals for your life and that you are not going to let anything, any verbal insult or hurt stand on your way to attain these gifts. We have a holy duty not to do any harm, but only good if you correctly understand “love your neighbor as yourself” commandment.

Forgive and Retain your Peace

If someone insults you, simply forgive him or her. That’s the discipline. As you remember, the deal is “and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us. (Matt. 6:12) An ability to forgive is higher than justice. When someone insults us we want justice because we think it’s fair. But what if justice is served to us for our misdeeds and wrong-doings?

This is why forgiveness is a higher category than justice. This is how God acts.

Yet, it’s better never to insult one another and instead see in each person the image and likeness of God. Let’s live this life respecting one another, live with love, in peace and without hurting each other.

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Armen Hareyan

I am a Subdeacon of the Armenian Apostolic Church. Love the Lord and love people. In this website I write daily inspirational messages about Christian Spiritual Life to help people to grow in faith.

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  1. February 22, 2016

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